A Guide for Christian Women Feeling Called to Become Homemakers
When I first started blogging, I wrote an article titled “HOW I LEFT NURSING & STARTED A BLOG (and you could too!)” about my transition from being a career woman to becoming a stay-at-home wife.
I only briefly touched on the subject, thinking there might be a few others out there wondering how to do the same. Well, it turns out there are A LOT of you out there! (Hi! Let’s be friends!) And you had some questions for me.
In this expanded post, I’ll answer some of those questions and share more about my journey, my faith and beliefs, some of the challenges I faced, and practical advice for those of you feeling called to make a similar transition.
18 Questions and Answers for a Stay At Home Wife
1. You Mentioned Submission and Obeying Your Husband—Are You Oppressed?
Let’s start with the big one. When people hear the words “submission” and “obeying your husband,” they often think of oppression or losing one’s identity. But for Christian women, submission isn’t about losing who you are—it’s about embracing God’s design for marriage.
Ephesians 5:22-24 talks about wives submitting to their husbands as the church submits to Christ. This doesn’t mean you’re a doormat or that your husband rules over you with an iron fist. In fact, Ephesians 5:25 commands husbands to love their wives as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her.
Submission in this context is about mutual love, respect, and partnership. It’s about trusting your husband to lead your family in a way that honors God. It doesn’t mean you have no voice or that your opinions don’t matter. Ask my husband! I am still VERY vocal about my opinions and my desires and visions, and whatnot. Stepford Wife I am not!
Quite the opposite—healthy, God-honoring submission involves open communication, mutual decision-making, and a deep sense of love and respect. If you’re worried about being oppressed, know that in a godly marriage, submission is a beautiful expression of trust and love, not a sign of weakness.
2. Do You Resent or Regret Leaving Your Career?
This is a question I get often, and I understand why. Walking away from a career—especially one you’ve invested years of your life into—can be daunting. Nursing was a big part of my identity, and leaving it behind wasn’t an easy decision. But here’s the truth: I don’t resent or regret leaving my career. Why? Because I know I’m exactly where God has called me to be.
That doesn’t mean I never miss my job or the sense of accomplishment it brought. I do. But the peace and fulfillment I’ve found in being obedient to God’s call far outweigh any fleeting moments of doubt. If you feel called to leave your career, it’s important to pray, seek wise counsel, and trust that God’s plan for your life is good. Remember, your worth isn’t tied to your job title—it’s rooted in Christ.
And also, remember – I’m still working! Ask my husband – I can almost NEVER just sit and relax, it’s part of my Type A personality and it can drive people nuts!
Not only do my manage the household on the daily but I’m a full-time blogger running my business from home. No day-time tv watching going on here – idleness is not very Christian after all!
3. Why Did You Decide to Start Blogging?
Starting a blog was a way for me to stay connected, share my journey, and encourage others. I realized that there are so many women out there who feel the same tug on their hearts to be at home but don’t know where to start.
Blogging allows me to reach those women, share my experiences, and create a community of support and encouragement whilst also dipping my toes into researching and writing inspiring travel posts, fashion posts, seasonal recipes, or fabulous home decor posts – I love ALL the things, that’s why I could never niche down!
It’s also a wonderful creative outlet. I still have a lot to share and contribute. Blogging gives me a platform to do that while still honoring my commitment to my home and husband. Plus, it’s a great way to bring in a little extra income from home—a win-win!
4. Why Is Your Husband and Home Your First Priority?
My husband and home are my first priorities because that’s the order God has set for my life. Titus 2:3-5 encourages older women to teach the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, and to be kind and subject to their husbands so that no one will malign the word of God.
If you’re a woman and you haven’t read that scripture I would really encourage you to stop reading this and go grab your bible, and then pop back! Don’t be like I was, lost in the hyper-charismatic nonsense of ‘You are enough’. Goodness, no. Literally we are NOT enough, hence the Gospel. Read the Word for yourself, it’s harder to justify poor behaviour when you’re confronted with scripture in black and white, huh?!
When I made the decision to be a stay-at-home wife, it was because I felt God leading me to prioritize my marriage and home above all else. This doesn’t mean I’m neglecting other aspects of my life, but it does mean that I’m intentional about where I invest my time and energy.
My husband is my partner, my best friend, and the person God has called me to support and encourage. Making him and our home my priority is a way to honor God and His plan for our marriage. Everything and everyone else comes after that.
5. Is It Time to Leave Your Career?
Leaving a career, especially one as all-encompassing as nursing, isn’t an easy decision. There are some considerations beyond the obvious financial aspects that might help you decide:
Feeling the Call
Are you feeling the call to be a stay-at-home wife or mom? Have you been struggling at work for health reasons or felt the pull to be elsewhere? For me, this was a significant factor. After a period of illness during the pandemic, I could no longer handle the physically demanding 12-hour shifts. At the same time, I got married and felt a strong calling that I wanted to be at home as a wife, enjoying my new role and lavishing love on my husband and our home and family.
Fulfillment
Are you finding yourself not as fulfilled with your role as you once were? Nursing was rewarding, but over time, I felt a shift. My heart was no longer fully in it, and I began to feel a deeper calling elsewhere. However, I am not someone who can sit idle and I knew that I wanted to have some form of at – home business.
Support Network
Do you have a support network beyond the nursing profession? That’s integral to your success and happiness once you leave. If you’re not sure, just have the conversation with your husband, partner, or support network.
Be brave and let them know what’s on your heart—you might be pleasantly surprised by their reaction! I prayed a lot during this season, and my husband could not have been more supportive. I needn’t have worried at all! He is thrilled to have a wife who prioritises God, our marriage, home and family before her career.
6. What Practical Steps Should You Take Once You Decide to Leave?
Once you’ve made the decision to leave your career, there are practical steps you can take to ensure a smooth transition:
Honor Your Character and Leave Well
This is so important, especially for a Christian. Always act with honour. Start with a kindly worded resignation letter explaining the reasons why you’re leaving and thanking your employer for the time and opportunities your time with them afforded you. Remain grateful and avoid any temptation to gloat about leaving to colleagues who remain or become bitter about less-than-ideal experiences you’ve been through.
Stay Hopeful—There Is Life After the Uniform!
Your identity is not just tied to your profession! It’s important to stay hopeful and remember that God has a plan for your life, even if it looks different from what you originally envisioned.
Expect an Emotional Wobble (or Two!)
After I pulled the plug and handed in my resignation letter, I remember having almost mini-panic attacks several times a week wondering how I could leave my established two-decade-long career for a dream. This is normal and all part of leaving something that’s been tightly woven into your fabric for so long.
Missing Colleagues
Setting up your new life and making new connections is important to avoid loneliness when you’ve been used to working with a large workforce of ready-made friends. I joined lots of Facebook groups which helped me to bridge that gap initially.
7. How do you Embrace Your New Life?
Once you’ve made the decision and taken the steps to leave your career, it’s time to embrace your new life. Here are some tips to help you transition smoothly:
Enjoy Setting Your Own Schedule
One of the biggest adjustments for me was setting my own schedule. After years of working shifts, having the freedom to plan my day was both exhilarating and daunting. I found it helpful to create a daily routine that included time for self-care, household tasks, and working on my blog.
This structure helped me stay productive and focused and prevented a lot of the overwhelm I hear other new bloggers suffer. Because I am Type A I actually had the problem of over-scheduling and over-working each day, and I forget easily at times the whole reason I came home from the workplace in the first place.
So I learned to prioritize the home first above my business, and made sure each day I was making from-scratch meals, baking etc. Pretty soon I had those things nailed and they didn’t take as much time up any more, so I just naturally began to have more of my day free to work or meet friends, do hobbies etc.
Learn a New Skill
I dove headfirst into blogging, starting from scratch. I took it slow and set up this website with basically zero IT skills in about four months. My fabulous husband, who is a website wizard, was my greatest resource. We had many a date night spent with a laptop and snacks as he taught me WordPress, Canva, and Pinterest skills. If I can do this, so can you!
Make New Connections
Building a new support network is crucial. I joined online communities of bloggers and stay-at-home wives, which provided me with support, advice, and friendship. These connections helped fill the void left by my former colleagues and made the transition much smoother.
Celebrate ALL the Small Wins
Transitioning to a new role and lifestyle can be overwhelming, so it’s important to celebrate small wins. Whether it’s publishing your first blog post, learning a new skill, or simply getting through the day with a positive mindset, acknowledge your achievements and be proud of your progress.
Take Care of Yourself Physically and Mentally
Make sure to prioritize your health and well-being. This might mean setting aside time for exercise, hobbies, or simply relaxing with a good book. Taking care of yourself will ensure you have the energy and positivity to embrace your new life.
Look Forward at What You’re Gaining
It’s about holding on to your ‘Why’ even when you feel lost and sad at first, or that you’re missing out somehow. Leaving nursing and becoming a stay-at-home wife and blogger has been a transformative journey for me. It’s been filled with challenges, but also incredible growth and fulfillment.
If you’re considering a similar path , know that it’s possible, and that you’re not alone. The transition is more than just a shift in occupation; it’s a spiritual journey that requires faith, patience, and a willingness to embrace change.
8. How do you Deal with Doubts and Negative Reactions?
Leaving a career to become a stay-at-home wife, especially in today’s society, can invite a range of reactions—some supportive, others critical. It’s important to prepare yourself for both and to manage your own doubts along the way.
Handling Negative Reactions
Not everyone will understand your decision, and that’s okay. Some might question your choice, believing that you’re giving up on your potential or stepping back from progress. Remember that their understanding is not required for you to follow God’s calling.
I faced my fair share of raised eyebrows and unsolicited advice, but staying firm in my decision and faith helped me navigate these conversations with grace.
And I am fully aware that every time I write a post that centers on my faith that it costs me a large number of secular followers. I’ve learned that’s ok, I just keep doing what I’m led to do and I’m happy to let God do the rest.
Finding Strength in God
When doubts creep in, and they will, turn to prayer and scripture for reassurance. The Bible is filled with examples of people who stepped out in faith, often against societal norms, to follow God’s plan for their lives. Meditate on verses that remind you of God’s faithfulness and His plans for your good (Jeremiah 29:11, Proverbs 3:5-6).
Building a Support System
Surround yourself with like-minded individuals who respect and understand your journey. This could be a small group at church, an online community, or even a close circle of friends who uplift and encourage you. Having a solid support system can make all the difference during challenging times.
9. What Were Some Positive Reactions You Received?
While there will be naysayers, you might also be surprised by the amount of love and support you receive. When I made the transition, I was overwhelmed by the encouraging words and acts of kindness from those who truly cared about me.
Many Unexpected Allies
Sometimes, support comes from the most unexpected places. People who I thought would be critical were some of my biggest cheerleaders. They saw the joy and peace I found in my new role and supported me wholeheartedly.
Your Husband’s Support
I cannot stress enough how vital my husband’s support was during this transition. He encouraged me to follow my heart, even when I was filled with doubts and throughout what was the most horrendous season personally for him.
I fell in love with him over and over again just seeing his strength of faith, his kindness, his faithfulness and sacrificial love for me even when I was being less than lovely some days! One of these days I’ll have him hop on here and we’ll do a couples article about something, I think you’ll love him as much as I do! If you ever want to see a person’s real character watch how they react in difficult seasons – I stand permanently in awe of my husband in this regard.
So, all that to say – if you’re worried about how your husband will react, I encourage you to have an open and honest conversation with him. You might be surprised by his response. It turned out my husband always wanted a stay-at-home wife and a traditional Christ-centered home, and his enthusiasm and encouragement continue to be a huge blessing to me.
I have loved watching him grow into the most wonderful Godly man and Leader of our Home, with just a little encouragement. Wives I really do feel like we reap what we sow in marriage. Are you loving your husband well? I know I fail miserably in this area sometimes. Mustard seeds ladies, mustard seeds.
10. Adjusting to Your New Role: How Do You Embrace Your New Identity?
Transitioning from a career to a stay-at-home role is a significant adjustment, and it can take time to fully embrace your new identity. Here’s how you can make this transition smoother:
Redefining Success
In the working world, success is often measured by promotions, raises, and accolades. But as a stay-at-home wife, success looks different. It’s about creating a loving, peaceful home, nurturing your relationship with your husband, and growing in your walk with God. Redefining what success means to you in this new season is crucial to finding fulfillment.
Creating a Routine
One of the joys of being at home is the flexibility it offers, but this can also be overwhelming if you’re used to a structured work environment. Establishing a daily routine that balances household responsibilities, personal growth, and time with God can provide a sense of stability and purpose.
Developing New Skills
Use this time to develop new skills or hobbies that you’re passionate about. Whether it’s cooking, gardening, crafting, or blogging, investing in these interests can bring joy and a sense of accomplishment. For me, learning the ins and outs of blogging became a rewarding challenge that filled my days with purpose.
11. Can You Still Earn an Income?
One of the questions I often get asked is whether it’s possible to contribute financially while being a stay-at-home wife. The answer is yes! There are plenty of side hustles that can provide extra income while allowing you to prioritize your home and family.
Blogging
As I mentioned earlier, blogging has become not just a creative outlet but also a source of income for me. It takes time to build up, but with consistency and dedication, it can become a lucrative endeavor. Plus, it’s something you can do from the comfort of your home, on your schedule.
Freelancing
If you have skills in writing, graphic design, or even virtual assistance, freelancing is a great way to earn money from home. You can take on projects that fit your availability and interests, allowing you to maintain balance in your life.
Etsy Shops and Crafts
If you’re crafty, consider starting an Etsy shop. Whether it’s handmade jewelry, printables, or home décor, selling your creations online can be both fun and profitable.
Tutoring or Teaching Online
If you have a passion for teaching, consider offering tutoring services or teaching classes online. This can be a fulfilling way to use your skills and earn extra income.
12. How do You Keep God at the Center of Your Day When Life Gets Busy?
Throughout this entire journey, the most important thing is to keep God at the center. Your decision to leave your career and become a stay-at-home wife is about honoring Him and following His plan for your life. But I am no expert – I’m still struggling to make God the center most days, here’s what’s been helping me:
Regular Prayer and Devotion
Make time every day for prayer and devotion. This is your opportunity to connect with God, seek His guidance, and find peace in His presence. When challenges arise, turn to Him for strength and wisdom.
Scripture Meditation
Find scriptures that speak to your heart and meditate on them. Let God’s Word be your anchor during times of doubt or uncertainty. Verses like Proverbs 3:5-6 remind us to trust in the Lord with all our hearts and not lean on our own understanding.
Involve God in Your Plans
As you make decisions, whether big or small, involve God in the process. Pray over your plans, ask for His direction, and be open to His leading. Sometimes, He might take you on a path you never expected, but trust that it’s for your good.
13. What Are Some Rewards of Your New Role?
As you settle into your new role as a stay-at-home wife, you’ll begin to experience the unique rewards that come with it. These might not be the same as the rewards you received in your previous career, but they are deeply fulfilling in their own way. Some of the keys points for us as we’ve gone through this transition together have been:
Nurturing Our Marriage
With more time at home, I can focus on nurturing my marriage. This might involve creating special moments together, cooking meals that bring us both joy, or simply being present and attentive in ways that were harder when I was working full-time.
Creating a Peaceful Home Environment
My home became a sanctuary not just for me, but for my husband, family, and anyone who visits. The time and care I invest in maintaining a peaceful, welcoming space is a blessing that impacts everyone who steps through my door.
Personal Growth and Spiritual Maturity
As I spend more time in prayer, study, and reflection, I do find that my faith deepens and my spiritual maturity grows. This season of life is offering me a unique opportunity to draw closer to God and grow in my relationship with Him.
Freedom and Flexibility
One of the greatest joys of being a stay-at-home wife is the freedom and flexibility it offers. I have the ability to shape my days in a way that best suits my needs and the needs of my family. This freedom allows me to be more spontaneous, to rest when needed, and to pursue interests that bring me joy.
14. What Encouragement Can You Share for Those Who Can’t Make the Transition?
I want to take a moment to acknowledge that not every woman who feels called to be a stay-at-home wife is in a position to make that transition. Whether it’s due to financial constraints, single parenthood, or other responsibilities, I understand that this isn’t always a viable option.
Trust God’s Plan
If you’re unable to leave your career at this time, trust that God has a plan for your life right where you are. He sees your heart and your desires, and He will provide for you in ways you may not expect.
Make Small Adjustments
Even if you can’t fully step into the stay-at-home role, consider making small adjustments that align with your calling. This might mean cutting back on work hours, delegating more household responsibilities, or finding ways to create more balance in your life.
Seek Contentment in the Present
It’s easy to become discouraged when your circumstances don’t align with your desires, but seek contentment in the present. Ask God to help you find joy and purpose in your current season, even as you continue to pray for His guidance in the future.
15. Final Thoughts: A Journey of Faith and Fulfillment
Making the decision to leave your career and become a stay-at-home wife is a deeply personal and spiritual journey. It’s not without its challenges, but it’s also incredibly rewarding when done in obedience to God’s calling. For those who feel this tug on their hearts, know that you’re not alone. There are many Christian women who have walked this path before you and found peace, joy, and fulfillment in their new roles.
If you’re feeling called to be at home, I encourage you to pray, speak to your spouse, and make a plan to honor God in this calling. Surround yourself with supportive, like-minded women who can walk this journey with you. And remember, your worth isn’t defined by a job title or societal expectations—it’s defined by your identity in Christ.
Your husband might surprise you with his support, just as mine did. Ultimately, this journey is about trusting God and walking in obedience to His will for your life. Whether that means staying in your career or stepping into the role of a stay-at-home wife, know that you’re fulfilling a purpose that’s far greater than any worldly achievement.
16. The Importance of Accountability and Community
As you embark on this new chapter of your life, it’s crucial to have a network of accountability and community. This journey, while fulfilling, can also be isolating at times, especially if you’re transitioning from a bustling workplace environment.
Find a Mentor
Seek out a mentor, perhaps a pastor’s wife or an older woman in your church who has experience in this area. Having someone to guide you, pray with you, and offer wisdom can be invaluable.
Join a Small Group or Bible Study
Connecting with other Christian women through a small group or Bible study can provide the community and accountability you need. These groups are often a source of encouragement, prayer support, and practical advice.
Online Communities
If you don’t have access to a local group, consider joining online communities of like-minded women. There are many forums and social media groups dedicated to Christian stay-at-home wives and moms. These can be a lifeline of support, especially in the early days of your transition.
17. Telling Others About Your Decision
One of the more challenging aspects of this transition can be sharing your decision with others—whether it’s family, friends, or colleagues. How do you explain your choice in a way that’s both confident and gracious?
Be Honest and Humble
When sharing your decision, be honest about your reasons and humble in your approach. You don’t need to justify your choice to everyone, but sharing your heart can help others understand where you’re coming from.
Focus on the Positive
Frame your decision in a positive light. Instead of focusing on what you’re leaving behind, talk about what you’re gaining—the opportunity to focus on your family, your home, and your relationship with God.
Be Prepared for Mixed Reactions
Not everyone will understand or agree with your decision, and that’s okay. Be prepared for a range of reactions and trust that those who truly care about you will support you, even if they don’t fully understand.
18. Moving Forward with Confidence and Peace
As you step into this new role, move forward with confidence and peace, knowing that you are following God’s leading. The road ahead may not always be easy, but it will be filled with opportunities for growth, joy, and fulfillment.
Trust in God’s Timing
If you ever feel unsure or anxious about your decision, remind yourself that God’s timing is perfect. Trust that He has brought you to this point for a reason and that He will continue to guide you every step of the way.
Celebrate the Journey
Don’t forget to celebrate the journey! Every step you take, every challenge you overcome, and every blessing you receive is a testament to God’s faithfulness. Take time to reflect on how far you’ve come and give thanks for the path He has laid before you.
Keep Your Eyes on Eternity
Finally, keep your eyes on eternity. This life is but a moment in the grand scheme of God’s eternal plan. The decisions you make now, the way you live your life, and the love you pour into your home are all part of a greater story—one that glorifies God and builds His kingdom.
Embrace the Calling with Open Arms
Becoming a stay-at-home wife is more than just a change in occupation; it’s a calling that can lead to profound spiritual growth and a deeper relationship with God. It’s an opportunity to invest in your marriage, your home, and your faith in ways that are both meaningful and impactful.
May you find joy in the simplicity of everyday moments, strength in the challenges you face, and peace in knowing that you are exactly where God wants you to be. This is your season to flourish, to grow, and to honor God with your life. Welcome to the beautiful adventure of being a stay-at-home wife—a role that is both noble and deeply rewarding!
Whether you’re a nurse, like I was, or in another profession, or perhaps you’ve never worked and you’ve always know you wanted to be a homemaker – I hope this article encourages and equips you to follow God’s calling for your life. And if you don’t know the Gospel already please watch THIS wonderful presentation of it.
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