How to Make Your House a Haven for Your Husband!
We all love making our homes beautiful, cozy, and uniquely ours. But I’ve come to realize that in the quest to create that perfect space, it’s easy to get a little carried away and maybe even over-feminize things. You know what I mean – pastel pinks, frilly curtains, and dainty little knick-knacks everywhere. But here’s the thing: our homes are shared spaces, and it’s so important to consider our husbands’ preferences too.
Remember, it’s his home too!
Imagine coming home to a space that doesn’t reflect your tastes at all. What if our husbands decided to deck out the living room in all dark, heavy furniture, sports memorabilia everywhere, and not a single cozy throw pillow in sight? It wouldn’t feel very inviting, would it? Just as we want our homes to be a sanctuary, so do they.
Finding that happy medium.
It’s all about balance. You don’t have to completely abandon your style – just find ways to incorporate his tastes too. For example, if you love pastel colors but he’s more into neutrals, you can mix and match. Use pastel accents like throw pillows or wall art while keeping the larger furniture pieces neutral.
Small changes can make a big impact.
In my house, I made a few simple changes that made a huge difference. I swapped out some of old decor for more gender-neutral pieces. I also created a little corner dedicated to his interests – a space where he could display his favorite books, gadgets, and even some of his sports gear and we made a little office space in the garage for him. Such a small change, but it made him feel so much more at home.
Communicate and collaborate.
Talk to your husband about what he likes. You might be surprised! Maybe he has a favorite color or style that you can work into your decor.
My husband shared that in past relationships he hadn’t felt considered at all and had never even been asked about style/decor so it took him a little while to be able to really open up and tell me he liked simple quality items over frivolous or too colorful things (we banned red LOL!).
Taking the time to ask his opinion and ideas really meant the world to him and I’m so thankful that he now feels included and important in our home.
It’s not about sacrifice, but inclusion.
Including your husband’s preferences doesn’t mean you’re giving up your style. It’s about creating a space that reflects both of you. If your husband loves pink and frills, then go for it! The key is to make sure that the home feels like a shared space, not just your personal project.
10 practical tips to get started.
Here are 10 ways a wife can consider her husband’s preferences and needs when decorating their home:
1. Shared Style Preferences:
Discuss and agree on a general style (modern, rustic, minimalist) that both enjoy.
2. Favorite Colors:
Incorporate his favorite colors in various elements like walls, furniture, or accents. We now have a lot of blues, greys and natural wood tones which my husband loves and they actually go pretty well with my preferred Scandinavian style – I don’t feel like I’ve sacrificed at all by including him.
3. Comfortable Furniture:
Choose comfortable and practical furniture that suits his comfort preferences.
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4. Functional Spaces:
Designate and organize functional spaces like a home office, gym, or workshop.
5. Tech-Friendly Spaces:
Integrate technology-friendly elements like charging stations, smart home devices, and entertainment systems. My husband really appreciates having multiple charging stations around our home as he is often ‘on call’ and needs to keep his devices fully charged.
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6. Hobby Zones:
Set up areas dedicated to his hobbies, like a music corner, gaming station, or reading nook. We incorporated a simple additional chair in the dining room for my husbands guitar and it actually became one of my favorite areas of our home decor.
7. Bedroom Comfort:
Ensure the bedroom decor promotes relaxation and comfort for both partners. We have touch-lamps with USB charging ports and a giant bed with huge comforters as a priority to help us feel like we’ve been whisked away to a hotel suite each night (works wonders for the romance too!)
8. Minimal Clutter:
Keep areas clutter-free, especially if he prefers a more minimalist environment or has ADHD like my husband.
9. Bathroom Essentials:
Include his favorite toiletries and ensure the bathroom is practical and organized. My husband loves his over the toilet cupboard for ease of grabbing what he needs to get ready quickly in the morning – any I love it because it hides everything away and keeps my counters clear! It’s a win-win for our marriage!
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10. Safety and Accessibility:
This was a surprise to me but when I asked my husband what really made him feel comfortable at home a huge consideration for him is that he always has an evacuation plan and a plan for what to do in an emergency in the home, and that it is stressful when furniture is constantly rearranged because those plans may be altered.
So I tend to keep the furniture in the same place always, and consult him when thinking of making any changes to see if there’s any negative impact on those concerns etc, and just to show my consideration and appreciation for the way he holds our safety as a paramount priority.
The Takeaway – “The Heart of the Home Is The People In It”
At the end of the day, home is where the heart is – and the heart of the home is the people in it. By considering our husbands in our decorating choices, we create a space that’s welcoming and comfortable for everyone. It’s a small gesture that shows we care about their comfort and happiness just as much as our own.
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Last update on 2025-04-17 / Affiliate links / Images from Amazon Product Advertising API
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